Surely that doesn’t count as a “date”….right?

Sometimes marriage is funny. Today Val and I went to lunch at our favorite Mexican restaurant and afterwords went to Starbucks, ordered 2 iced teas, and sat outside talking and playing “Words for Friends” (it’s like Scrabble) on our phones. It was great to be able to get away from the kids for a couple of hours, turn our minds “off” from the cares of life, and just enjoy each others company while having a little fun playing a game we both enjoy.

So here’s my question: Is that really a date?! I say YES!  It sure meant a lot to my wife, who speaks in “time” as her love language. Sometimes us husbands get a little confused by what our wives really want when they say “date”. Men get this idea of expensive dinner, putting on the dress shirt you never wear, flowers, etc, etc, etc, when it comes to going on a “date”. And there’s nothing wrong with that every once in a while, but unless you are one of those lucky families that has a maid to take care of the laundry, dishes, house, kids and all those other things that seem to never go away, odds are you don’t get that opportunity much. So why not take those “normal times” you find yourselves together, and make them count! When it comes down to it, our wives just want to spend time with us. They want to be number one on our mental “to do” list. Before the lawn. Before the Cars get washed. Before Golf and ESPN. So remember – when your wife says she wants to go on a date, you don’t have to always haul out the dozen roses, and try to scrape together $50 for a “nice” dinner. Sometimes all it takes is a couple iced teas, a silly game, and laughing and being with each other.

    • Kath
    • July 15th, 2011

    Amen! The best dates are usually free ones! Good writing G! Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  1. This is so true, Gerard! It’s not always about a big, planned, expensive date night. It’s more often just knowing you are on your husband’s mind, before his job and his hobbies. Coffee at Starbuck’s works just great for that.

    I found your blog through Sheila Wray Gregoire’s marriage blog. You came highly recommended and that goes a long way for me. I don’t run across many men blogging about these subjects. I’ve been reading love & marriage blogs today for a friend of mine who has just launched a new business called The Date Knight. Check it out on Facebook. He has a passion for encouraging men to go on a quest for the hearts of the significant women in their lives. Your blog is right in step with his heart.

    We’d love it if you would participate in a blog hop or host a guest post. Would love to hear from you.

    • Thanks Candy! I will check out his Date Knight thing tonight! Would love to do a guest post or whatever you need! I’m flattered you would even consider me for that, but if you needed me to, just let me know! Thanks again!

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